FaceBook Status

Technology has changed the way we communicate with each other. Texting, Twittering, MySpace and FaceBook. How many of us even us our phones to talk? Nonetheless a landline? I barely talk on the phone anymore much less do I have a house phone. Social networks have become the medium in which we communicate with family, friends and co-workers. It has become the primary way to let each other know what’s happening in our lives. We, generally speaking and myself included, use status updates to tell folks where we are at, what we are doing or what we are feeling. I know I am guilty of all of these. With this being said, I’ve come to learned that people are judging me based on my status’. Status’ that I’ve typed out of shear frustration, in the heat of the moment. A dear friend of mine was chatting with me about it last week along with another friend of mine as well. I’ve updated about my love life, personal life, work life and just life in general. That’s what its there for right? So why am I being judged? Why is anyone being judged for it? I know I use it to announce new or exciting things, to ask for pray for my grams and I even use it to vent. What I have come to realize is that though I have a lot of ‘FRIENDS’ and I use that word very loosely, that many of them are more like acquaintances than friends. Now some of them are good friends but most of them BARELY KNOW me. They don’t know what makes me tick or what makes me happy or sad. I know that I post a lot of my status’that are cryptic, in a code that only few would know or even that no one would know. Most people don’t know me so they think I am a little weird or crazy, especially when I vent. Such is life right? So what is my point you ask? Everyone has their own struggles and trials, ups and downs. Everyone’s hard times are different. I know that I am blessed with the things in my life and I have a lot to be thankful for. I also know I don’t judge anyone based on their status, how unfair would that be? If I feel like maybe they are struggling I just say a little prayer for them, if I ask if they are okay and I don’t get a response then I respect their privacy. So this being said I really would wish that folks who don’t know a darn thing about me would stop judging me based on my status updates. Or maybe I just need to not post about myself, keep it very surface. My struggles may be pale in comparison to yours, but they are my struggles and they are my demons that I am dealing with. It should not be a game to see whose struggles are worse. I know for myself the last month has been kind of stressful between my personal life and work life and I could not find the words to express my frustration. I wrote a status update and just let my feelings fly and I was labeled as ‘certifiable’ by a person who has no idea about me or what makes me tick. So my lesson in all of this is that I’ll just keep my status updates generic and surface like. Or maybe I will just delete everyone? I can’t be mad at anyone for judging me(and I am honestly not). They are my words, I take responsibility for the words I say and the thoughts I type. So the lesson here is that I need to be more careful about what I say and HOW I say it. I never even really thought that anyone read my updates but I guess they do and I guess that they are judging me based on them.